But here's the deal. If you've tried and tried and no practice or technique is making it any better, guess what? You can just skip it! You will be no less legit with regular eyeliner that's closer to the the lash line. The "pinup style" winged liner that we know today didn't even become popular until the 1950's. And even then, not EVERYONE wore it. If you don't have steady hands or if you have hooded lids (or in my case, I was in a car wreck that destroyed my left eyelid with scar tissue) then maybe it's not worth the heartache of feeling less put together just because you have a shaky smudgy line. If you do a good job with the rest of your hair and makeup why cause yourself the stress and aggravation if it just doesn't work?
I can tell you not once has anyone ever come up to me and said "You know, you would look really great if you had just put on some winged eyeliner." If they did, they would probably get a swift kick in the shin. I may even push them down. And then I'd say "You know, you would look really great without that bruise on your shin and all that dust all over your clothes." ;)
For more on the history of eyeliner check out this blog.